My first child was born on Feb. 16th 2012. As I embark on my breastfeeding adventure, I feel so lucky to be able to be a part of the breastfeeding blog world. For more about me read the About Us section of the blog! This blog is intended to be a place of inspiration and information. It is a place to share stories and ideas. I love hearing from you!
Tomorrow, October 1st, is the Breastfeeding Challenge. In Canada, it kicks off World Breastfeeding Week, which we celebrate from Oct 1st to 7th (I don’t know why it’s two months later than when most of the rest of the world celebrated it!)
The Breastfeeding Challenge is not just a Canadian event, though. This year it is being held in 15 countries. The event is intended to raise awareness and support for breastfeeding. At 11am local time, all the participants will simultaneously nurse. Cheers to the world’s largest latch on!
Toronto Breastfeeding Challenge 2009 http://www.babyfriendly.ca/gallery/image_toronto-2009_122.aspx
Momzelle is proud to be a sponsor of over 100 Breastfeeding Challenges in North America. We hope that women in all communities find the support they need. This event is a great opportunity to meet other breastfeeding moms. Is there a Challenge in your community? Click here to find out.
We would love to hear if you are attending an event this year or have attended one in the past!
It starts with “the breast milk dad”, a man from California who decided to blog about his effort to use up the freezer full of breast milk his wife had produced while nursing their baby. This baby is now weaned and the milk was just taking up space. The couple had apparently tried to donate it, but to no avail. So Dad goes on a breast milk only diet, forsaking food.
Within two weeks, the uproar was too much to bear and the couple pulled the blog and stopped the stunt. Outcries to donate the milk eventually led the couple to Emma Kwasnica of Human Milk 4 Human Babies. Emma put them in touch with a mother of quadruplets in California! The breast milk is now nourishing four little babies, instead of one grown man.
Click here to read the full article (and see the adorable quadruplets!).
While we try to teach our children all about life, Our children teach us what life is all about.
How true. It even seems to be the case with breastfeeding. I am reading, researching and joining groups to find out as much information as I can, but I know when my baby arrives in February that they will be teaching me what it really means!
Earlier this week, I read a blog post by Alpha Parent called Who is best to parent? Boys or girls? It is an excellent article designed to help people who are dealing with gender disappointment. I am twenty weeks pregnant and my husband and I have decided to keep the gender a surprise until delivery day. This is our first child and I can honestly say that I will be thrilled with whatever we are blessed with; a boy or a girl. It’s cliche, but I just hope for a healthy, happy baby.
The idea of gender disappointment does linger in the air though. I’ve already heard comments from friends and family such as “I’m sure you’d love a boy to play hockey with” to my husband. Will he be disappointed if the house is overflowing with pink things? I admit that I feel I would be much more capable of raising a girl. I don’t have brothers or nephews. There are barely any boys in my family. I feel unprepared. But I also feel up to the challenge and part of me wants the uniqueness of having the first boy in the family!
Gender disappointment is a topic that I think needs to be discussed. In my research, I read many stories of women who are dealing with it. There was much talk of guilt and shame, keeping it to themselves and being afraid to love their child. Though it doesn’t affect us all, I think it is much more common than it is talked about. There are cultural and societal pressures regarding gender that can easily consume us.
So how do you cope with gender disappointment? How do you overcome it? I think reading the above mentioned post is a good start! It lists 100 benefits of raising each gender. It is fascinating and will hopefully lend perspective to those who have lost it. I think it is important to acknowledge your feelings. Communicate with your spouse, doctor and/or someone you trust and work through your emotions. Many people are insensitive to the issue and can only make you feel worse.
Did you face gender disappointment? How did you deal with it? What are your best resources that you want to share with other mom? This is a safe and non-judging place. All feelings are valid.
The concept of milk banks is new to me. I remember a while back when Salma Hayek nursed a malnourished African child; it was the first time I thought breast milk could be so powerful to more than the family using it, but I had never heard of a milk bank.
I was really moved by an article called The Gift of Milk I read on mothering.com. It was about a mom that was back at work and pumping hard for her child. Her child was refusing the bottle so the milk started piling up in the freezer. To read the article click here.
The reaction from the nurse when she donated the milk and the writer’s sense of fulfillment was very inspiring.
At this time there is only one official milk bank in Canada. Milk sharing is a mother-led movement, connecting donors with families wanting to give breast milk but who are unable. MilkShare and Eats onFeets are examples of milk sharing websites. It is obviously something that requires diligence and research.
Is it a choice you would make if unable to breastfeed your infant?
Now that I have been the blog and social media writer at Momzelle for just over a month, I thought I’d take the time to reflect a little…
Working for Momzelle is just perfect for me. First, I’m due this February with my first child, so the topics Momzelle cares about are the same ones I do. I get to learn so much about what to expect and be a part of a community of like-minded women. It feels great to connect and share stories and news with amazing breastfeeding mothers.
I get an inside view of how Christine and Vincent (the sibling founders of Momzelle) run this amazing company (a company that won CYBF’s best socially-minded company of 2010, just to brag a little, I’m very proud of them!).
I also happen to live across the street from the office in Montreal; I can’t complain about the commute. And yesterday when I sat down my baby-bulging belly popped the button of my shorts off and Christine gave me a Momzelle nursing band to wear! Now that’s a company perk!
Before I got married I had six theories about bringing up children; now I have six children and no theories.
~ John Wilmot
So it is not a direct breastfeeding quote, but I think the sentiment still applies. Whether it is parenting theories or ideas about breastfeeding, before and after actually having children can make a big difference. I am on the before side, being pregnant with my first child. I have many ideas (theories) about how I’d like to be as a parent and especially as a breastfeeding mother. I think it is great that I formulate my thoughts before I actually have a child, but I have a sneaking suspicion that many of my ideas will be tossed out the window (or at least thrown against it a few times:)) Children, especially newborns, have their own ideas too!
Did you breastfeed longer or shorter than you “planned”? Before birth were you adamant the child would not share your bed and then attachment parenting suited you and your family best? Did any of your parenting plans get a makeover once your little one arrived?
Most of my readers, I assume, are already breastfeeding mothers. I would love your help and advice on this post’s topic!
Did you write a birth plan? I plan on writing one. I am having a hospital birth because the waiting lists for midwives is long and lonely in Montreal (to be fair, we just moved here and I didn’t get on the list until I was already eight weeks pregnant). So far, I have had one visit with my new doctor and felt very comfortable with her. The hospital has a great breastfeeding policy, in accordance with the World Health Organization. They also implement the Baby Friendly Hospital Initiative, although I don’t think they are accredited by Unicef. I admit that in my first visit the actual birth (and therefore my ideas of what I want) didn’t come up. I didn’t bring them up. I have my second appointment next week and I am going to make sure I begin the conversation. I am sixteen weeks pregnant and I don’t think it’s too early. I believe that the more I talk with my doctor, the more she’ll understand my needs.
This will be my first child, but I feel lucky that I already have a few birth experiences. I was in the delivery room when both my nieces were born. My sister had midwives for both births. The insight of watching my sister be fully in control of her experience was eye-opening. Her midwives were gentle guides, but my sister was the boss. Up until her pregnancy I was under the belief that you just go to the hospital and do what the professionals tell you!
I don’t want to make out like I think hospitals, doctors and nurses are barbaric goons that want to pull my baby out with forceps because their shift ends in ten minutes, but there is a reality to just allowing routine hospital practices to be performed during births (see the slightly sensational video below). I’m not ready to have a home birth. Although low risk home births are just as safe with a midwife as low-risk hospital births, I want to be in a hospital with professionals there to take care of baby and me if something goes wrong. If something goes wrong… If all is going normal and naturally as our bodies are designed, than I want to have limited (no!) medical intervention.
So I am going to write a birth plan. I am going to put as much detail as I can and be sure that my husband and my mother (a trained doula, who will be in the room with me) know what I want and will act as my voice when I am in the throes of labour kindly requesting drugs!
My birth experience will directly impact the first few moments and minutes, hours and weeks with my new baby. I realize my birth plan will have to be flexible, but more importantly it has to be written. I want to breastfeed. I want to have a natural childbirth. My birth plan is my way of supporting myself!
This is a very intersting short documentary posted on www.thebirthingsite.com about the topic. It definitely promotes home births and birthing centres, but the bottom line is that it promotes empowerment. We have rights and choices when it comes to our bodies and our babies. Knowledge is power!
Did you write a birth plan? How did having one (or not having one) affect your birth experience?
I would love to hear stories!
~Sara @ Momzelle
I don’t like to write about negative things, but I just had to post about this evenflo marketing campaign. I’ve had an extended long weekend away from my computer and as I catch up with all the breastfeeding news this morning I am shocked to see this video!
I am not shocked to read all the outraged comments on twitter or facebook. We’ve recently been told that breastfeeding mothers have “mama bear” tendencies, so it was no surprise that the claws came out.
I am not yet breastfeeding. When my first child is born in February, I will get an even better sense of the offending nature of this ad campaign. As a consumer though, I am fully aware of the distasteful way absolutely every character is portrayed. It’s insulting to everyone (especially me, the viewer!). The overbearing mother-in-law, the bumbling grandpa, the passive husband and the ever-cleaning, irritated mom; how original! It insults my intelligence and they are trying to be funny.
Here is a wonderfully eloquent post by PhD in Parenting that expresses just why it is so disappointing to see a company go wrong.