My first child is due Feb. 8th 2012. As I wait with anticipation for my breastfeeding adventure to begin, I feel so lucky to be able to be a part of the breastfeeding blog world. For more about me read the About Us section of the blog! This blog is intended to be a place of inspiration and information. It is a place to share stories and ideas. I love hearing from you!
Roxane Picard nursing in the Momzelle Fancy Top. Congratulations! The festive lights and the loving look in Roxane’s eyes were definitely deciding factors:)
Thank you to all the entries. We just love seeing the Momzelle shirt in action!
I am due with my first child in two months. There are so many things I am looking forward to, but… I don’t like drawing attention to myself, making people uncomfortable or being insecure. What I really don’t like is that these things are often associated with breastfeeding in public!
I am truly excited for the breastfeeding relationship only I will be able to have with my child. Because of my work on this blog and my involvement with an amazing community of online breastfeeding mothers, I feel that I will confidently breastfeed in public. I just hope that if (or when, as it seems more often) I run into negative reactions I will remember this “confidence” I have now!
Last month there was an article about a Michigan judge that deemed breastfeeding (discreetly in the back of his courtroom) “inappropriate”. Read the article here. It seems everyday I read about more women feeling embarassed or belittled when breastfeeding in public. Breastfeeding is normal!! I don’t want to breastfeed in public to make a statement of my rights and responsibilities. I want to breastfeed because that is what is best for my child.
I would like to see this stop being an issue. Bottle-feed or breastfeed, the idea is that if you are out with your baby you should not feel weird about feeding it!
Do you feel comfortable breastfeeding in public? How do we make breastfeeding the cultural norm?
I spent fifteen hours traveling yesterday to get from Montreal to Nelson, BC. I came to the beautiful Kootenays to visit my dearest friend. My mentality when booking my flight (and bus…) was that I needed to treat myself to a getaway before the baby arrives. I have read many times that the second trimester is the time get out there and go on a trip. It seems to be true. I was quite comfortable and only had to pack for one! It made me think of my impending parenthood. Will flying be quite so fun then?
When I think of all the upcoming challenges of having a child, flying with them seems to be the one that really makes you brave. Breastfeeding in public is nothing compared with the sighs of disdain from a plane load of people when they see you board with baby. It is a shame that strangers are not more supportive, considering most likely they’ve done it too!
My first experience traveling with children was when I accompanied my sister and nieces to visit my grandmother. Zoe was 2 1/2 years old and Avery was seven months. My sister and I were prepared with a battery of books, toys and songs. One of my all time favourite memories with my nieces was Zoe sitting on my lap on that plane as we quietly sang every nursery rhyme I knew until she stopped singing and snoozed. The girls required our full attention, but as long we kept them busy everyone had a good time. I found the whole trip wonderfully fun and I hope that I take this attitude with me when it is my own children!
What advice to do you have for flying with children? How do you keep them entertained? Would you rather have a root canal ?
With Canadian Thanksgiving this weekend, I wondered how breastfeeding mothers fair at such family events. I am not due until February, so I will not be breastfeeding at the two biggest family gatherings this year. Let’s say I’m preparing for Easter!
It would seem to me (as an eager mom-to-be), that a family gathering should be a welcoming and supportive place to breastfeed. But then again a part of me imagines it is more comfortable to breastfeed in front of a busload of strangers than while trying to have a conversation with my father-in-law. Family members also seem far too comfortable putting in their two cents about how you should raise your child. A mother wrote this plea on a forum recently “Help with opinionated MIL….” I love the responses. It’s not just mother-in-laws! Friends and family often offer suggestions (er, criticism) on all topics of parenting.
Norman Rockwell painting
So how do you deal with it? What are your tips for surviving family events without awkwardness and debate?
As I get further along in my pregnancy (five months now!) and further along at my new job as a blogger of breastfeeding and other mom things, I keep coming across the term “crunchy mom”. I like the idea of being “crunchy”, from what I understand of it.
Here is one definition I found at urbandictionary.com
Crunchy Mama:
Mother who supports homebirth, breastfeeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering, co-sleeping, gentle discipline, etc. One who questions established medical authority; tends to be vegetarian and/or prepare all-organic foods. See crunchy and hippie.
I have a hard time committing to one (very general) definition! I will say I want to be a fairly crunchy mom. But let me also preface this by saying that I’m not quite sure what all is encompassed in being “crunchy”…
These are my intentions of crunchiness:
I will breastfeed
I will start with cloth diapers (not sure how long I will continue with them, the poop seems to get quite scary!)
I plan to puree my own baby food (but it probably won’t be organic all the time)
I want to baby wear as much as possible
I will nurse at least a year
I am planning a natural birth (zero medical intervention, if possible) with a doula (in a hospital, as I haven’t been called for the midwife clinic waiting list yet, so wish me luck!)
I plan to have mostly used/hand-me-down baby things such as stroller, playpen, etc (mostly for my budget, but also for the environment)
I am taking a yoga class and am interested in the idea of hypno-birthing (must do more research!)
As you can see with all the above brackets, that I may not qualify as a “crunchy mom”! But I like the idea of making the world as natural, safe and interesting as possible for my family.
Instead of a quote or a video, this week I wanted to share an article and an idea!
Let’s laugh. That is the idea and in England on a weekday afternoon in the back of a pub, you just might find a gaggle of moms with their babies doing just that. Instead of a matinee movie, why not catch a comedy act? As more women comedians are rising on the scene, motherhood and parenting is becoming quite the inspiration for material.
Helen Rutter had the idea for her successful mom and baby comedy show shortly after she gave birth. Along with making them laugh, she wanted to design a show to support and reassure new mothers “at a time when your emotions are all over the place and you can feel extremely vulnerable”. To read the full article in the Guardian, click here.
I love the idea of meeting other new moms in your community, being welcomed to breastfeed in public and being thoroughly entertained all in one place. What do you think? Are there any comedy acts aimed at motherhood in your area? Would you be interested in it?
Tomorrow, October 1st, is the Breastfeeding Challenge. In Canada, it kicks off World Breastfeeding Week, which we celebrate from Oct 1st to 7th (I don’t know why it’s two months later than when most of the rest of the world celebrated it!)
The Breastfeeding Challenge is not just a Canadian event, though. This year it is being held in 15 countries. The event is intended to raise awareness and support for breastfeeding. At 11am local time, all the participants will simultaneously nurse. Cheers to the world’s largest latch on!
Toronto Breastfeeding Challenge 2009 http://www.babyfriendly.ca/gallery/image_toronto-2009_122.aspx
Momzelle is proud to be a sponsor of over 100 Breastfeeding Challenges in North America. We hope that women in all communities find the support they need. This event is a great opportunity to meet other breastfeeding moms. Is there a Challenge in your community? Click here to find out.
We would love to hear if you are attending an event this year or have attended one in the past!
I don’t like to write about negative things, but I just had to post about this evenflo marketing campaign. I’ve had an extended long weekend away from my computer and as I catch up with all the breastfeeding news this morning I am shocked to see this video!
I am not shocked to read all the outraged comments on twitter or facebook. We’ve recently been told that breastfeeding mothers have “mama bear” tendencies, so it was no surprise that the claws came out.
I am not yet breastfeeding. When my first child is born in February, I will get an even better sense of the offending nature of this ad campaign. As a consumer though, I am fully aware of the distasteful way absolutely every character is portrayed. It’s insulting to everyone (especially me, the viewer!). The overbearing mother-in-law, the bumbling grandpa, the passive husband and the ever-cleaning, irritated mom; how original! It insults my intelligence and they are trying to be funny.
Here is a wonderfully eloquent post by PhD in Parenting that expresses just why it is so disappointing to see a company go wrong.